{"id":2928,"date":"2023-08-19T15:17:28","date_gmt":"2023-08-19T15:17:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/?p=2928"},"modified":"2023-08-20T04:14:34","modified_gmt":"2023-08-20T04:14:34","slug":"why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Narcissists Can Never Truly Move On From Their Ex-Partners"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_55 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\" role=\"button\"><label for=\"item-67444fe763456\" 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id=\"item-67444fe763456\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Why_Narcissists_Can_Never_Truly_Move_On_From_Their_Ex-Partners\" title=\"Why Narcissists Can Never Truly Move On From Their Ex-Partners\">Why Narcissists Can Never Truly Move On From Their Ex-Partners<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-2'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Addictive_Narcissistic_Supply_They_Can%E2%80%99t_Replace\" title=\"The Addictive Narcissistic Supply They Can&#8217;t Replace\">The Addictive Narcissistic Supply They Can&#8217;t Replace<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Potent_Addiction_of_%E2%80%9CLove_Bombing%E2%80%9D\" title=\"The Potent Addiction of &#8220;Love Bombing&#8221;\">The Potent Addiction of &#8220;Love Bombing&#8221;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Hooks_Sunk_In_By_Intermittent_Reinforcement\" title=\"The Hooks Sunk In By Intermittent Reinforcement\">The Hooks Sunk In By Intermittent Reinforcement<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Tolerance_Build_Up_%E2%80%93_Why_New_Supply_Never_Measures_Up\" title=\"The Tolerance Build Up &#8211; Why New Supply Never Measures Up\">The Tolerance Build Up &#8211; Why New Supply Never Measures Up<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#In_Summary\" title=\"In Summary\">In Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Loss_of_Power_and_Control_They_Can%E2%80%99t_Accept\" title=\"The Loss of Power and Control They Can&#8217;t Accept\">The Loss of Power and Control They Can&#8217;t Accept<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Maintaining_Control_Through_Manipulation_and_Abuse\" title=\"Maintaining Control Through Manipulation and Abuse\">Maintaining Control Through Manipulation and Abuse<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Desperate_Hoovering_and_Stalking_Attempts_to_Regain_Control\" title=\"Desperate Hoovering and Stalking Attempts to Regain Control\">Desperate Hoovering and Stalking Attempts to Regain Control<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#A_Severe_Narcissistic_Blow_They%E2%80%99ll_Avoid_At_All_Costs\" title=\"A Severe Narcissistic Blow They&#8217;ll Avoid At All Costs\">A Severe Narcissistic Blow They&#8217;ll Avoid At All Costs<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#In_Summary-2\" title=\"In Summary\">In Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Validation_of_Their_False_Self_They_Depend_On\" title=\"The Validation of Their False Self They Depend On\">The Validation of Their False Self They Depend On<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Relationships_as_Mirrors_Reflecting_Back_Glory\" title=\"Relationships as Mirrors Reflecting Back Glory\">Relationships as Mirrors Reflecting Back Glory<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#An_Eventual_Devalue_Threatens_the_Facade\" title=\"An Eventual Devalue Threatens the Facade\">An Eventual Devalue Threatens the Facade<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Hoovering_to_Re-Idealize_Their_Tarnished_Image\" title=\"Hoovering to Re-Idealize Their Tarnished Image\">Hoovering to Re-Idealize Their Tarnished Image<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Summary\" title=\"Summary\">Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-17\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Projection_Dumpster_They_Need\" title=\"The Projection Dumpster They Need\">The Projection Dumpster They Need<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-18\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Partners_Become_Vessels_For_Their_Toxic_Shame\" title=\"Partners Become Vessels For Their Toxic Shame\">Partners Become Vessels For Their Toxic Shame<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-19\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Partners_Get_Blamed_For_The_Narcissist%E2%80%99s_Behavior\" title=\"Partners Get Blamed For The Narcissist&#8217;s Behavior\">Partners Get Blamed For The Narcissist&#8217;s Behavior<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-20\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Losing_Their_Emotional_Garbage_Disposal\" title=\"Losing Their Emotional Garbage Disposal\">Losing Their Emotional Garbage Disposal<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-21\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Summary-2\" title=\"Summary\">Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-22\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Feedback_Loop_Confirming_Their_False_Self\" title=\"The Feedback Loop Confirming Their False Self\">The Feedback Loop Confirming Their False Self<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-23\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#The_Co-Dependent_Co-Conspirator_Role_Partners_Play\" title=\"The Co-Dependent, Co-Conspirator Role Partners Play\">The Co-Dependent, Co-Conspirator Role Partners Play<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-24\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Partners_Reflect_Back_The_False_Self_Narcissists_Need_To_See\" title=\"Partners Reflect Back The False Self Narcissists Need To See\">Partners Reflect Back The False Self Narcissists Need To See<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-25\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Losing_Their_Echo_Chamber_Destabilizes_Them\" title=\"Losing Their Echo Chamber Destabilizes Them\">Losing Their Echo Chamber Destabilizes Them<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-26\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Summary-3\" title=\"Summary\">Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-27\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Frequently_Asked_Questions_About_Narcissistic_Exes\" title=\"Frequently Asked Questions About Narcissistic Exes\">Frequently Asked Questions About Narcissistic Exes<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3'><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-28\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#What_are_some_key_signs_a_narcissistic_ex_isn%E2%80%99t_fully_over_you\" title=\"What are some key signs a narcissistic ex isn&#8217;t fully over you?\">What are some key signs a narcissistic ex isn&#8217;t fully over you?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-29\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#How_long_does_it_usually_take_narcissists_to_move_on_for_good\" title=\"How long does it usually take narcissists to move on for good?\">How long does it usually take narcissists to move on for good?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-30\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#Is_trying_to_get_closure_from_a_narcissist_ever_a_good_idea\" title=\"Is trying to get closure from a narcissist ever a good idea?\">Is trying to get closure from a narcissist ever a good idea?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-31\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#What%E2%80%99s_the_best_way_to_get_a_narcissist_ex_out_of_your_life_for_good\" title=\"What&#8217;s the best way to get a narcissist ex out of your life for good?\">What&#8217;s the best way to get a narcissist ex out of your life for good?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-32\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-narcissists-can-never-truly-move-on-from-their-ex-partners\/#In_Conclusion\" title=\"In Conclusion\">In Conclusion<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Narcissists_Can_Never_Truly_Move_On_From_Their_Ex-Partners\"><\/span>Why Narcissists Can Never Truly Move On From Their Ex-Partners<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>This comprehensive guide will explore why people with narcissistic personality disorder struggle tremendously to detach and move on after romantic breakups. We&#8217;ll cover the dysfunctional emotional patterns, distorted perspectives, manipulative behaviors, and denied inner wounds that keep narcissists psychologically tethered to their ex-partners long after the relationship officially ends.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Addictive_Narcissistic_Supply_They_Can%E2%80%99t_Replace\"><\/span>The Addictive Narcissistic Supply They Can&#8217;t Replace<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Narcissists have an insatiable need for attention, praise, admiration, and validation from others in order to nourish and stabilize their chronically fragile sense of self-esteem and identity. This unrelenting demand for ego strokes and mirrors from the outside world is known as &#8220;narcissistic supply.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>To a narcissist, their romantic partners become the ultimate sources of this precious supply, providing a steady stream of respect, adoration, love, sex, gifts, and other compliance that feeds their disordered ego and confirms their grandiose fantasies of superiority. Even after the breakup, narcissists are addictively hooked on the peerless high they obtained from their ex-partners&#8217; supply. They become so accustomed to their partners meeting this supply need that they struggle to replace them as sources.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Potent_Addiction_of_%E2%80%9CLove_Bombing%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>The Potent Addiction of &#8220;Love Bombing&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>In the early stages of wooing a new partner, narcissists engage in an aggressive tactic known as love bombing. They overwhelm the target with constant flattery, adoration, gifts, attention, physical affection, promises of commitment, and other <a title=\"How do you cure codependency? Recovery Treatment Overcome Relationship Behavior\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/attachment-style\/codependency\/how-do-you-cure-codependency-recovery-treatment-overcome-relationship-behavior\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">behaviors aimed to ensnare the partner quickly into the relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The target, unaware they are being manipulated, gets entrenched as a primary source of narcissistic supply through this conditioning. The narcissist banks on being able to leverage the love bombing investments later. It <a title=\"Signs Of Manipulation In A Relationship\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/npd-symptoms\/signs-of-manipulation-in-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">manipulatively chains the partner to the relationship<\/a> through feelings of obligation, guilt, and nostalgia.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Hooks_Sunk_In_By_Intermittent_Reinforcement\"><\/span>The Hooks Sunk In By Intermittent Reinforcement<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Once narcissists feels confident they have secured partner as a source of supply, they often switch gears from love bombing to keeping partners bonded through intermittent reinforcement.<\/p>\n<p>This involves randomly alternating between being loving, hot and cold, demeaning &#8211; keeping partners in a state of uncertainty, and trying to win back the original love bombing treatment. Partners are trauma bonded through this hot-cold instability.<\/p>\n<p>By mixing sporadic doses of positivity amidst the cruelty, partners stay hooked in hope the idealized early version of the narcissist will return. The unpredictability strengthens the already planted trauma bonds.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Tolerance_Build_Up_%E2%80%93_Why_New_Supply_Never_Measures_Up\"><\/span>The Tolerance Build Up &#8211; Why New Supply Never Measures Up<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Like a drug, narcissists steadily build up a tolerance for the same old sources of supply. The dose that once satisfied them starts to take more and more to achieve the same high.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately for new post-breakup supplies, they are starting from baseline while narcissists have unusually high thresholds and expectations. The narcissist now requires a concentrated form of supply different partners can almost never provide. They end up seeking it out from the addictive original supply &#8211; their exes.<\/p>\n<p>Even if new supplies enhance the narcissist&#8217;s ego at first, the novelty soon wears off. The narcissist begins devaluing them and being reminded of the unparalleled supply fountain provided by their longtime ex-partner. This sends them circling back.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In_Summary\"><\/span>In Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Through manipulation tactics, narcissists groom romantic partners into becoming dedicated <a title=\"Narcissist\u2019s major Weaknesses and Insecurities \u2013 The Complex Personality Trait of Narcissism:\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/narcissists-major-weaknesses-and-insecurities-the-complex-personality-trait-of-narcissism\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">personal<\/a> sources of addictive narcissistic supply. The attention, validation, intimacy provided by partners offers a uniquely potent form of ego feeding the narcissist can&#8217;t relinquish.<\/p>\n<p>Even after the breakup, narcissists are tormented and driven by cravings to reconnect with exes in hopes of tapping back into that customized, concentrated stream of supply. They have yet to find another source capable of delivering the same peerless high.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Loss_of_Power_and_Control_They_Can%E2%80%99t_Accept\"><\/span>The Loss of Power and Control They Can&#8217;t Accept<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Narcissists are power-hungry creatures. They exploit their romantic relationships as platforms to exert dominance and micromanage their partners as subjects to boost their grandiose egos. A breakup represents the ultimate loss of control for <a title=\"What kind of person marries a narcissist? #XnarcAbuse\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/attachment-style\/what-kind-of-person-marries-a-narcissist-xnarcabuse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissists &#8211; a grave offense they take personally<\/a> and cannot fathom conceding defeat to.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Maintaining_Control_Through_Manipulation_and_Abuse\"><\/span>Maintaining Control Through Manipulation and Abuse<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Within relationships, narcissists use an arsenal of manipulative and abusive tactics to systematically break down a partner&#8217;s boundaries, independence, and free will in order to establish compliant control.<\/p>\n<p>This includes gaslighting, emotional blackmail, verbal attacks, isolation from support systems, economic abuse, physical intimidation, stalking, smear campaigns, and other methods of coercion designed to dominate partners psychologically and logistically. Partners are indoctrinated to acquiesce.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Desperate_Hoovering_and_Stalking_Attempts_to_Regain_Control\"><\/span>Desperate Hoovering and Stalking Attempts to Regain Control<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>When partners finally reach their limits and leave, narcissists perceive this as the ultimate act of defiance to their authority. Enraged at losing control, they initiate desperate hoovering and stalking efforts to regain dominance.<\/p>\n<p>This may involve bombarding the ex with pleading texts and calls, sob stories, threats, empty apologies and promises to change, declarations of love, requests for &#8220;closure meetings&#8221;, and other ploys aimed at luring the partner back into the narcissist&#8217;s realm of control.<\/p>\n<p>Unable to respect the ex&#8217;s boundaries and wishes, the narcissist persists because they can&#8217;t fathom conceding power permanently through no contact. In their disordered minds, accepting the ex&#8217;s independence would amount to humiliating defeat.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A_Severe_Narcissistic_Blow_They%E2%80%99ll_Avoid_At_All_Costs\"><\/span>A Severe Narcissistic Blow They&#8217;ll Avoid At All Costs<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Being left first constitutes a severe narcissistic injury and blow to the narcissist&#8217;s grandiose false self. Having their partner independently reject them and choose to move on attacks their inflated sense of superiority and specialness.<\/p>\n<p>Rather than confront this ego bruising reality, narcissists would rather cling desperately to fabricated narratives where the ex still needs them, made a mistake, or can be manipulated into returning.<\/p>\n<p>Admitting defeat and letting the ex go for good would shatter the precarious foundations propping up their disordered personality construct. So they continue stalking and hoovering, ever plotting to regain control.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In_Summary-2\"><\/span>In Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists are heavily emotionally invested in maintaining positions of power and control in relationships. Breakups are experienced as shocking losses of dominance over subordinates.<\/p>\n<p>Unable to cope with the wounds to their grandiosity and false sense of superiority, narcissists resort to manipulative tactics in hopes of restoring their authority and false image in the eyes of the &#8220;defiant&#8221; ex.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Validation_of_Their_False_Self_They_Depend_On\"><\/span>The Validation of Their False Self They Depend On<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>In addition to being hooked on their ex-partners&#8217; supply and control, narcissists also rely heavily on relationships to validate their false self-image as ideal, flawless, accomplished people deserving of adoration. Losing an ex&#8217;s positive regard threatens to expose the fragile insecurities buried beneath their disordered bravado.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Relationships_as_Mirrors_Reflecting_Back_Glory\"><\/span>Relationships as Mirrors Reflecting Back Glory<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>To narcissists, romantic bonds serve as mirrors reflecting back an aggrandized image of themselves. Having partners and friends who view them positively helps convince narcissists the grandiose persona they project has substance.<\/p>\n<p>Being admired and praised by others helps neutralize their repressed feelings of inadequacy and shame. When partners act adoringly, narcissists feel they are finally receiving the recognition and glory they deserve.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"An_Eventual_Devalue_Threatens_the_Facade\"><\/span>An Eventual Devalue Threatens the Facade<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Initially, narcissists bask in their partners&#8217; inflated positive perceptions of them. However, as their true selves emerge, the devaluing process begins. Partners start to see through the narcissist&#8217;s facade.<\/p>\n<p>Seeing disappointment or disillusionment in a partner&#8217;s eyes pierces narcissists&#8217; delusions, confronting them with reality checks about their deep-seated flaws and emptiness. This triggers profound paranoia about being exposed.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Hoovering_to_Re-Idealize_Their_Tarnished_Image\"><\/span>Hoovering to Re-Idealize Their Tarnished Image<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>After devaluation, breakups often follow as partners reach their limit. Narcissists then try hoovering them back in hopes of manipulating them into reinstating the narcissist&#8217;s former glorified status.<\/p>\n<p>Getting hoovered exes to resume gazing at them with adoration could restore their external validation. Narcissists are willing to endure the gauntlet of no contact if they believe they can resume basking in their ex&#8217;s restored positive mirror once more.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Summary\"><\/span>Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists rely heavily on their partners&#8217; initially positive perceptions of them to prop up their grandiose yet paper-thin egos. Losing an ex&#8217;s admiring regard is a huge blow. Hoovering aims to negotiate a resurrection of their idealized image in the ex&#8217;s eyes.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Projection_Dumpster_They_Need\"><\/span>The Projection Dumpster They Need<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>In addition to being addicted to the supply, control, and validation exes provide, narcissists also heavily rely on relationships as projection dumps onto which they can unload their negative traits and inner poison. Losing this key outlet adds injury to insult after breakups.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Partners_Become_Vessels_For_Their_Toxic_Shame\"><\/span>Partners Become Vessels For Their Toxic Shame<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Deep down, <a title=\"Can a narcissist really love his wife?\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/can-a-narcissist-really-love-his-wife\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissists are filled with toxic shame and self-loathing about who they really<\/a> are, which is weak, defective, and unlovable. This is unbearable for them.<\/p>\n<p>To manage this, narcissists use projective identification to foist their uncomfortable shame onto their partners &#8211; making them feel unworthy and flawed instead. Partners become vessels carrying the narcissists&#8217; shame.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Partners_Get_Blamed_For_The_Narcissist%E2%80%99s_Behavior\"><\/span>Partners Get Blamed For The Narcissist&#8217;s Behavior<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists also deploy projection to blame partners for the abusive behaviors they themselves perpetrate. For example, falsely accusing the partner of being controlling, manipulative, critical, and unreasonable.<\/p>\n<p>This again transfers narcissists&#8217; guilt and self-hatred onto the partner. By making partners carry their shameful qualities, narcissists escape accountability and feel blameless and superior.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Losing_Their_Emotional_Garbage_Disposal\"><\/span>Losing Their Emotional Garbage Disposal<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Breakups abruptly eliminate narcissists&#8217; ability to keep projecting their toxic shame, aggression, and bad feelings onto ex-partners. All those disowned parts become trapped inside the narcissist.<\/p>\n<p>Until hoovering the ex back under their influence, narcissists are forced to confront the reality of their undesirable selves. Having nowhere to dump their shame, they spiral into dysfunctional thinking and behavior patterns.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Summary-2\"><\/span>Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists rely heavily on partners serving as projection dumps onto which they can expel their toxic inner garbage. Losing this outlet means confronting themselves. They try to hoover exes back to resume projecting their shame and flaws outward again.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Feedback_Loop_Confirming_Their_False_Self\"><\/span>The Feedback Loop Confirming Their False Self<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>So far we&#8217;ve explored narcissists&#8217; addiction to their exes&#8217; supply, control, validation, and ability to have unwanted traits projected onto them. The final core dependency narcissists have on their romantic partners is the stable feedback loop partners provide confirming the viability of their false self. Losing this consistent reinforcement destabilizes narcissists.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Co-Dependent_Co-Conspirator_Role_Partners_Play\"><\/span>The Co-Dependent, Co-Conspirator Role Partners Play<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissistic <a title=\"Are you a People Pleaser or CoDependent?\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/attachment-style\/codependency\/are-you-a-people-pleaser-or-codependent-recovery-treatment-overcome-relationship-behavior\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">relationships operate as co-dependent systems that mutually reinforce each others&#8217; pathological behaviors<\/a>. Essentially, <a title=\"Sympathy-Seeking Texts: Manipulating Your Compassion by Narcissist\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/narcissist-text-messages\/sympathy-seeking-texts-manipulating-your-compassion-by-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissists manipulate<\/a> partners into acting as cheerleaders and enablers of their disorder.<\/p>\n<p>Partners consciously or unconsciously praise the narcissist&#8217;s false mask, minimize <a title=\"How To Handle Narcissistic Abuse\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/how-to-handle-narcissistic-abuse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissistic abuse<\/a>, make excuses for red flags, and help propagate the narcissist&#8217;s lies about themselves.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Partners_Reflect_Back_The_False_Self_Narcissists_Need_To_See\"><\/span>Partners Reflect Back The False Self Narcissists Need To See<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>By going along with narcissists&#8217; narratives and delusions, partners provide confirmation biased feedback that affirms the narcissist&#8217;s disordered perspectives.<\/p>\n<p>Seeing partners buy into their projections, lies, and images stabilizes narcissists by convincing them their false self is real and credible &#8211; not merely a desperate charade.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Losing_Their_Echo_Chamber_Destabilizes_Them\"><\/span>Losing Their Echo Chamber Destabilizes Them<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Once an ex-partner finally defects from the <a title=\"Why And How Narcissists Play Games\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/why-and-how-narcissists-play-games\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissist&#8217;s false reality and stops playing<\/a> into their delusions, this vital feedback loop nourishing the narcissist&#8217;s psyche is removed.<\/p>\n<p>No longer able to point to the partner&#8217;s affirmation as &#8220;proof&#8221; of their legitimacy, narcissists are confronted with core emptiness and fraudulence. Their shaky mental defenses are further weakened without this co-dependent reinforcement system.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Summary-3\"><\/span>Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists rely on the twisted echo chamber co-created with romantic partners to prop up their disordered false self concept. Losing an ex&#8217;s role in confirming their false narratives leaves them <a title=\"I Feel Empty: How To Overcome Feelings Of Emptiness\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/relationships\/thyself\/i-feel-empty-how-to-overcome-feelings-of-emptiness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">feeling far more unstable and empty<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Frequently_Asked_Questions_About_Narcissistic_Exes\"><\/span>Frequently Asked Questions About Narcissistic Exes<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_are_some_key_signs_a_narcissistic_ex_isn%E2%80%99t_fully_over_you\"><\/span>What are some key signs a narcissistic ex isn&#8217;t fully over you?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Some <a title=\"How To Spot A Narcissist \u2013 Red Flags and Warning Signs\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/how-to-spot-a-narcissist-red-flags-and-warning-signs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">signs a narcissistic<\/a> ex isn&#8217;t fully detached and still fixated are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They continue contacting you frequently even when you request no contact.<\/li>\n<li>They drive by your home, workplace, or other locations to keep tabs on you.<\/li>\n<li>They stalk you on social media using aliases or fake accounts.<\/li>\n<li>They smear your reputation and try to turn friends\/family against you.<\/li>\n<li>They triangulate using your shared connections to fish for intel about you.<\/li>\n<li>They manipulate others into luring you back or conveying messages.<\/li>\n<li>They exaggerate displays of happiness via social media to make you jealous.<\/li>\n<li>They tout their great new life yet still obsessively track and monitor yours.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_long_does_it_usually_take_narcissists_to_move_on_for_good\"><\/span>How long does it usually take narcissists to move on for good?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Narcissists often take much longer than emotionally healthy individuals to detach and move forward after relationships end. Some factors impacting their likelihood of lingered fixation:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How abruptly the breakup occurred &#8211; being left abruptly is highly destabilizing.<\/li>\n<li>The depth of their narcissistic wounding and damage to their false self.<\/li>\n<li>How much narcissistic supply they extracted from the partner.<\/li>\n<li>The intensity of the idealization phase with love bombing.<\/li>\n<li>Whether they have lined up new primary sources of supply yet.<\/li>\n<li>Their level of addiction to the loss of control over the ex.<\/li>\n<li>The degree of vindictiveness driving their smear campaigns.<\/li>\n<li>If the ex kept enforcing firm boundaries after the breakup.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In many cases, their lingering obsession can continue for months or even years. Normal emotional detachment rarely occurs.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is_trying_to_get_closure_from_a_narcissist_ever_a_good_idea\"><\/span>Is trying to get closure from a narcissist ever a good idea?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Attempting to gain closure from a narcissistic ex is usually an exercise in futility. Narcissists are rarely able to engage in meaningful closure conversations. Their disordered coping mechanisms typically turn such talks into further chaos.<\/p>\n<p>Seeking closure from a narcissist often backfires by giving them hoovering opportunities. It reengages them in drama and chaos that refuels their ego.<\/p>\n<p>The healthiest path is accepting you will probably not get the closure talk you desire. Make your own meaning and seek validation from safe sources. Don&#8217;t expect it from a personality disordered ex.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What%E2%80%99s_the_best_way_to_get_a_narcissist_ex_out_of_your_life_for_good\"><\/span>What&#8217;s the best way to get a narcissist ex out of your life for good?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The most effective approaches to get a narcissistic ex out of your life include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Go full no contact and block them everywhere. Delete\/discard any remaining links.<\/li>\n<li>Seek support from safe friends\/family &#8211; build your independence.<\/li>\n<li>Move locations or change jobs if they are stalking you.<\/li>\n<li>Document any continued harassment and explore legal options.<\/li>\n<li>Work with a therapist skilled in narcissistic abuse recovery.<\/li>\n<li>Refrain from reacting to provocations or hoovering attempts.<\/li>\n<li>Keep your online presence limited and anonymous.<\/li>\n<li>Focus fully on your own growth, goals, and healing journey.<\/li>\n<li>Consider announcing a new <a title=\"How To Set Healthy Boundaries In Your Relationships\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/attachment-style\/codependency\/how-to-set-healthy-boundaries-in-your-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">healthy relationship<\/a> (real or not).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In_Conclusion\"><\/span>In Conclusion<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>As we&#8217;ve explored in depth throughout this guide examining all angles, narcissists have a multitude of complex reasons fueling their inability to accept breakups and move forward even years later. Their warped emotional patterns, distorted perspectives, and manipulative behaviors keep them tied to ex-partners long after the relationship&#8217;s expiration.<\/p>\n<p>Gaining clarity on why <a title=\"How Does a Narcissistic Mother Behave? Dealing With a Narcissistic Mother \u2013 The Impact and How to Heal\" href=\"https:\/\/thyselftherapy.com\/relationships\/narcissistic-mother\/how-does-a-narcissistic-mother-behave-dealing-with-a-narcissistic-mother-the-impact-and-how-to-heal\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">narcissists behave<\/a> this way can empower their victims to implements boundaries, disentangle from dysfunctional dynamics, and minimize lingering harmful effects. Knowledge promotes recovery.<\/p>\n<p>The narcissist&#8217;s limitations and disorders need not continue defining those who managed to break free. Their hoovering efforts can be neutralized and overcome. A future untethered to their chaos awaits.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why Narcissists Can Never Truly Move On From Their Ex-Partners This comprehensive guide will explore why people with narcissistic personality disorder struggle tremendously to detach and move on after romantic breakups. 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